In this post, you’ll learn the signs that you’re stuck in your masculine energy and how to shift into your feminine energy!
I’m so excited for this post because pivoting from masculine to feminine energy was LIFE CHANING for me.
I had NO idea how much time I was spending in masculine energy and how much it was affecting my life.
Luckily, after noticing the signals and then making a few (easy!) adjustments, I’ve been able to rest in my feminine energy and enjoy a more abundant life.
I can’t wait for you to do the same! Let’s start with going over the SIGNS that you’re stuck in your masculine energy, and then we’ll talk about the SHIFTS that you can make.
Signs You’re Stuck in Masculine Energy:
Here are a few common signs of women who are stuck in their feminine energy. Now, while you are meant to have *some* masculine energy, spending too much time away from your feminine energy can lead to an excess of the following:
Sign #1: Constant doing vs. being: always planning, fixing, proving
If you find yourself constantly making schedules, plans, to-do lists, and routines while unsuccessfully following through, you might be stuck in your masculine energy.
In addition, you might find yourself constantly *fixing* things instead of *enjoying* them. Perhaps you feel that you’re always cleaning your house without living life in it. Or maybe you feel that you spend more time nagging your family than spending actual time with them.
Lastly, you might realize that you are always trying to prove yourself. Maybe you feel that life is a competition and you need to beat everybody, whatever that looks like to you. You’re obsessed with winning the best and achieving the most.
Again, there is masculine energy in you that helps you to enjoy each activity listed above. But if you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or burnt out… it’s time to learn how to BE to balance how much you DO. More on that later.
Sign #2: Overgiving in relationships: leading instead of letting things unfold
If you initiate every action in every relationship, you might realize you’re stuck in masculine energy.
Perhaps you plan every date night, invite every neighbor over, assign every kids’ chore, schedule every doctor visit, and even initiate every social gathering.
Again, it’s natural for us to initiate a lot of these things. And some of us love to be the go-to initiators! But if you’re starting to feel overwhelmed (even dreading another hour of family event planning) you might be stuck in your masculine energy.
Well done on keeping so many social relationships going!
Now, it’s time for you to learn how to rest and attract.
Sign #3: Tension in your body: tight shoulders, jaw, or holding your breath
Some women spend so much time in masculine energy that their physical body starts to issue warnings!
You might feel tightness throughout your body or realize you’re holding your breath.
I’ve even seen some women stay in masculine energy for so long, it begins to mess up their hormonal cycles.
And of course, just like any imbalance in life, you’re probably feeling some sort of stress, which can cause all sorts of physical ailments – feeling overwhelmed or discouraged, trouble sleeping, trapped gas, irritability, to name a few.
Thank goodness your body is helping you realize that there’s room for something to change. Now, let’s talk about the shifts you can make to get un-stuck from your masculine energy!
Shifts to get UN-Stuck in Masculine Energy
The great news is that it’s fairly easy to tap into your feminine energy. The trick is to embody that energy consistently so you don’t get trapped in masculine energy again!
Here are some mindset shifts you can start adopting immediately to harness feminine energy.
Additionally, you’ll find journal prompts for each shift. Try answering these truthfully so you can clearly see where to go from here.
Shift #1: Focus on being > doing
While masculine energy is all about doing, feminine energy is all about being.
YOU are incredible just the way you are, so you don’t need to spend so much time proving yourself or competing with everyone else.
Once you quit over-doing, you realize that “restful” you is capable of setting an upbeat emotional tone for everyone around you. When you choose to become present, your feminine energy breathes loveliness into the room. Life gets more pleasant for everyone involved.
You don’t have to plan out or fix everything. If you can simply BE there, all those “things” will turn out just grand.
Journal prompts for being:
- What would allow me to BE [calm/joyful/loving/patient/etc.] today?
- How could I gently remind myself to be more present throughout the day?
- Are there any experiences from my past that make me feel like I need to prove myself, and if so, how could I let that feeling go?
Shift #2: Focus on receiving > giving
Listen, it’s great to give. But that includes giving to yourself. Give yourself time, peace, love, space. Whatever you need. No one is going to take care of you the way you know you need to be taken care of! And you can’t pour from an empty cup.
So, get comfortable asking for and receiving help.
Give yourself permission to rest and let things come to you.
Life is abundant, and God would like to bless you with ALL the blessings. The only thing He asks you to do is receive them.
Journal prompts for receiving:
- How am I leaving enough space in my relationships for other people to pour into me?
- Are there experiences from that make me feel like I don’t deserve abundance, and if so, how can I let that go?
- Do I have any unfulfilled needs that might make it hard to enjoy my life today, and if so, how can I fulfill them?
Shift #3: Focus on trusting over controlling
Controlling everything is exhausting. Not to mention stressful. Instead, try to focus on TRUST.
Trust that the outcome will be for your benefit. Trust that your feelings are valid, and that they’re trying to tell you something!
Next time you’re feeling overwhelmed/stressed/irritated/etc., stop and ask yourself:
“What do I feel?”
Trust that your emotions come from a good place. That they are trying to tell you something, so if you can listen to them and trust them, you’ll be able to live more aligned with your purpose.
Journal prompts for trust:
- Why do I always feel the need to be in control?
- How can I daily tap into how I’m feeling? Can I commit to adjusting my day based on what I learn?
- Are there any experiences from my past where I felt that someone/something let me down, and does that still affect me today? How can I let that go?
Un-Stuck in your masculine energy
Now, you know what signs to look for that signal you’re stuck in your masculine energy.
AND, you’re equipped with the mindset shifts you can make to get un-stuck!
For more on tapping into your feminine energy daily, try this post next:
5 Daily Habits to Tap Into Your Feminine Energy
Or, for more on emotional regulation, try this:
The EASY Way to Regulate Your Emotions & Become a Hotter Wife
Cheers to you!
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